I Don’t Want Another Lesson

Let’s talk about God telling you “no” or “not right now”, but you still choose to do your own thing. More specifically, let’s talk about God telling you “no” to dating while you are suppose to be healing.

Imagine praying to God to send you the one and then thinking God has sent your dream person. This person meets all of your standards, and they make you very happy. This person is very respectful, have a relationship with God, consistent, they listen to you, and validates your feelings. They shower you with compliments and affection FOR THE FIRST 3 WEEKS! Yes, I said 3 weeks.

After this person gets you right where they want you, they flip the script. Now you are seeing them for who they truly are. In the end, they weren’t who they portrayed themselves as. In 3 weeks, you had planned your whole wedding in your head with this person (lol). Why? Because they “Loved Bombed” you to death. They told you everything you wanted to hear, and they did everything they felt they needed to do to get you. Though, once they get you, they drop the ball. Please note: When a person is playing a role, the script will eventually run out! Now you’re disappointed and hurt again. BACK TO HEALING DAY ONE YOU GO!

Truth be told, this has been a cycle in many peoples lives for years now. Reason being, when we a broken, we are vulnerable. We will believe anything we see or hear in our brokenness. Healing can be lonely. When we get lonely in healing, we start dating again. DON’T DO IT!

Let me save you the pain that I failed to save myself:

• Heal and make it personal!

• Until you learn what you need to learn, the cycle with continue.

On my healing journey, I once found myself in a repeated cycle with lessons after lessons. Why? Because I wasn’t learning the lesson that I was meant to learn. Also, I was in a repeated cycle because because I allowed my flesh to call the shots instead of my spirit. I did what I wanted to do in spite of God telling me “no” or “not yet”, and He showed me who was in control. To avoid continuous lessons, simply be obedient to what God tells you.

What’s the take away? “Be Obedient”

SHE came! SHE conquered! SHE WALKS!

With love,

Melissa

In the Midst…

So where did I leave off? Ahhhh that’s right “the going through”. That’s right! I left off with you going through it. Why am I going through this? I’m sure that’s a question you’ve asked. At the present time, I know it hurts. I know you’re angry. I know you find yourself depressed. I know you probably find yourself crying often.

I remember in the midst of my heartbreaks (yes I said heartbreaks), I felt the very same way that you’re probably feeling right now. I was angry, depressed, cried often, and I almost lost myself. I also complained the entire time I was in the midst. I pitied myself. I became bitter, but I did not allow myself to stay that way.

I remember crying out, “God why are you allowing this to happen to me?”. The only answer I received back was, “trust my plan”. I wanted to tell God, “I mean I trust but I still need to know what you got going bruh” (haha). I don’t want you to do what I did! Here’s something to remember while you’re in the midst:

1. You are exactly where you’re suppose to be.

2. You are not alone.

3. You are not stupid nor foolish.

4. God is with you always.

5. He will never leave or forsake you.

6. Take the necessary time to HEAL

Healing is significant when you’re in the midst. Discovering who you truly are and your purpose will require healing. What should you know about healing? I’m happy you asked! Healing isn’t pretty and it’s not going to be a cake walk. While you are healing, know that it’s okay to be confused. While you are healing, know that it’s okay to cry. While healing, know that it’s not meant to make you bitter, but to make you better.

Being “in the midst” is ugly, but it’s necessary! It’s necessary for who who you are. It’s necessary for where you are going. Your purpose is “in the midst”. So press on!

SHE came! SHE conquered! SHE WALKS!

With love,

Melissa

The “Going Through”…

The pain was worth it. I’m sure someone is reading this blog like “Girl shut up I don’t like what I’m going through right now”. Truth is, we never like the “going through” part of our journey. Many of us would prefer to skip it, but if we were to bypass the “going through”, we would miss the most pivotal moments in our journey.

If I must be honest, PAIN SUCKS! The “going through” SUCKS! However, the “get through” and “get to” is what we will appreciate in the end.

SHE WALKS LLC was birth in the midst of my going through. I found myself in the midst of my “going through”. I discovered my worth and what I truly deserve in the midst of my “going through”. There were times where I would fall short after everything I had already encountered, but I had to quickly remind myself of what I had “gone through”. There will still be times when you will fall short, but simply redirect yourself.

There is always purpose in pain, but sometimes we miss it because we sometimes get stuck in our feelings and pitying ourselves. It’s okay to feel down, but down allow yourself to stay in that place. If you are “going through” right now, I want you to keep going. I want you continue to press forward. Please note: When you start healing, discovering yourself, your purpose, and your worth; the devil is going to attack and try to tempt you. Therefore, stay grounded in your Word. I cannot wait to see what you birth. Trust the process! God loves you! Jesus loves you! I love you! I’m rooting for you!

With love,

Melissa